“In Sickness and In Health”

June 5th, 2014 marks the 10 year wedding anniversary for my husband and I, and nearly 17 years together as a couple. I am blessed. I am truly blessed, for I have been dealing with chronic illness during my entire relationship, and here’s the shocking part…I’m happily married (Gasp, I know, you can pick your jaw up from the floor now). Or at least that is shocking to many christians that can’t get enough of an article that is circulating around social media, and who knows where else, reminding me of what a freak I am because I don’t have children. So while I’d intended to write a post about celebrating my relationship with my spouse and best friend, who exemplifies the essence of the marriage vows “In sickness and in health”, I am instead overwhelmed with anger by the ignorance of this article. This is the kind of crap that reminds me of why I feel so isolated from the catholic church. And I quote: “Pope Francis said that while a childless life offers better vacation opportunities, it will end in solitude”. I’ve conveniently posted the article below for your viewing pleasure.


INFURIATING. And I made the mistake of responding in this manner to a post on social media, and received a reply with an article about how the pope “forgives” my infertility.

So I’m here with a message: DON’T JUDGE WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND. 1) I did not choose not to have children, I am physically unable to, and it has NOTHING to do with infertility. And even if I did, HOW DARE YOU JUDGE. 2) Don’t you DARE assume that because I don’t have children that I am unhappy in my marriage and will lead a lonely life. HOW DARE YOU JUDGE.

Enjoy your time in church this Sunday and pray for me while I sleep in, planning my vacation with my spouse and my dog. If this is the attitude that many display, I want and will continue to be no part of it. As Christians you have a LONG way to go if you can’t open your eyes and look beyond the black and white. I take personal offense to this and will go on record in saying so. I prefer to keep religion and politics out of my posts, but you’ve left me with no choice. I will not sit back in silence any longer.

DON’T JUDGE WHAT YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND. How fitting that this is during the month of June, migraine and headache awareness month where I have been advocating to raise awareness for this DISEASE and the stigma attached to it. Do some research folks and get with the times…


2 responses to ““In Sickness and In Health”

  1. aa012812 says:

    AMEN!! (pun only slightly intended lol) thank you for speaking your mind. loved it!!!

  2. Alie says:

    Hi Steph! I have no clue how I came about your blog (crazy this is you) but just wanted to tell you that I loved this entry and didn’t realize what you’ve been living with for so many years. My ex sells neurostimulators so I’m somewhat familiar with them and sorry to hear this didn’t work for you. I’m sending positive thoughts your way and hope that you will ignore the comments from ignorant people because there’s a lot of them out there. I pray that the Pope forgives stupidity too. xo, Alie

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