You’re Not Who You Used to Be

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~ Viktor Frankl

My downward spiral with migraines did not really start until after I graduated from college, thankfully, because I was truly able to enjoy one of the most amazing times in my life, and as a bonus I met my husband. At first they were more of a nuisance, and didn’t really affect who I was as a person. So initially I don’t think anyone really understood the magnitude of the changes I was going through with my health when things started to spiral out of control, because they associated me with the person that I used to be. This included everyone in my life from my family, childhood and high school friends, and of course my college friends.

Within a couple of years, the migraines were starting to take hold of my life, and I changed in the process, because I was forced to out of survival. I tried to maintain the cover of being “the old me”, but over time that became exhausting. For those closest to me, they recognized the change and were concerned. And this lead to a shift in my relationships with people, where I wanted to let them into my life and help them understand what I was going through, while maintaining a balance in my relationships, OUTSIDE of my health issues. In other words, I didn’t want to be defined by my health, and I didn’t want to be the “sick girl”.

rough days


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